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Safer Sex

The best way to stay sexually healthy is to be able to negotiate safer sex. If you can't negotiate safer sex, how are you going to make sure you have sex you enjoy?

Safer sex is about emotional and physical well-being. Emotionally, safer sex is about having a healthy level of control about who you have sex with and what you do. Physically, safer sex is about reducing the exchange of bodily fluids. As well as being safer for you, it can also help you have fun, fulfilling sex! 

Talking about the sex you want to have and enjoying it safely means that whatever the relationship you can enjoy the experience.  This is in part about having a healthy sense of control, but also understanding your own sexuality and desires.   

Drug use effects us sexually in a number of ways; it can increase your desire for sex, or remove it altogether. For example, cocaine increases your desire at first, but over time can cause impotence. We should remember though, that you can't predict what might happen, so being prepared for safer sex is always wise.  Using drugs as part of sex can be exciting; hi gives you some tips to make sure you stay safe. If you're having penetrative sex, the most important thing is to use a condom correctly every time. We give you some further tips below. But there's a lot more to safer sex than condoms. Check out the links provided for more info.  

Condoms: the facts

  • Keep your condoms in a cool, dark place, heat can damage them
  • Make sure the condom has a kite mark, that is the British safety standard mark  
  • Check that there is air in the pack before you open it
  • Condoms don't last forever. Check the use-by date
  • Keep your condoms handy if there's a chance you're going to have sex. Sperm comes out way before a man ejaculates so put a condom on before you get going
  • Never use a condom more than once. If you can't afford to buy them you can get some free at your local clinic
  • Adding extra lube on the end of the penis after you have rolled the condom on can feel extra good. It is reccommended that you use the full 80ml sachet.

Condoms:  the myths

  • Condoms are made to fit all shapes and sizes. You might need to look around for ones that fit right.
  • Two condoms are NOT better than one. Only ever wear one at a time.
  • Lubricants make condoms easier to put on and make sex more comfortable; but baby oil is NOT the right kind of lubricant to use. Anything with oil in it will increase the chances of the condom splitting, so make sure you use a lubricant that is made for use during sex.

Which lubricants are safe to use with latex condoms?

  • KY Jelly
  • Liquid Silk
  • Maximus

Don't use these with latex condoms:

  • Baby oil
  • Massage oil
  • Petroleum Jelly
  • Mineral oil
  • Sunscreen oil and lotions
  • Hand and body lotions
  • Edible oils, such as olive oil
  • Butter
  • Margarine



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